MY THOUGHTS ON MY PARENTS 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 May Vlog

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For this week’s topic, we got: parents. It’s not always an easy subject but I’m happy to share my honest thoughts on the matter. Thanks to HelloFresh for partnering with me. Get a total of $80 off with 8 free meals in your first month by going to https://bit.ly/2ABBtuv and entering clothes80.

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  1. This week’s topic, we got: parents 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 It’s not always an easy subject but I’m happy to share my honest + sometimes existential thoughts on the matter. I would love to know your relationship with your parents in the comments below.

  2. your mom is so cute! also I know your fashion manager Suzie lol her parents are friends with mine small world. and i totally agree, you reallly do grow closer to and come ot understand your parents the older you get. we really aren't who we are without them

  3. Jenn this video was SO relatable.. everything about it. I giggled because my dad is so similar to yours, always on his own agenda, taking pictures of anything and everything, we even lose him sometimes lol. These things make him who he is and I have also learned to appreciate it rather than criticize it as I did when I was young.
    Growing up, my parents were pretty strict with me, but now as an adult I can see it always came from a place of deep love and vision for my success. We used to really butt heads but now we have the absolute best relationship.
    As a fellow Asian American I truly appreciate the content you speak on. It’s so real & raw. Feelings that are relatable and heartfelt. Thank you Jenn! 💕

  4. The existential-crisis privilege quote hit me so hard. Yes our generation is indeed privileged to even have the time to think deeply about our life goals and purposes. And as we pave our ways, we’re also making life easier for our future generations to take it to the next level.

  5. Jenn Thanks for talking about your parents with us because I've been feeling similar recently. I got all chocked up listening to your story. I'm less then a month from getting my Master's, and as a first Gen American, I started choking up at that realization that I'll be the first in my fam to get a master's. The thought that we are achieving the "American Dream" that our parents wished for always makes me humble.

  6. Thank you for this video from a fellow Korean American! Your 아빠 is literally my 아빠 (down to the whole taking random pictures on excursions). Not a lot of people understand the challenges of growing up Asian American with immigrant parents. Thank you for being so candid ❤️

  7. wow jenn, really needed to hear what you had to say about your relationship with your parents! i’ve been struggling with the same frustrations for the past two years and i’ve only recently started to work towards bettering them whether that’s directly or emotionally/mentally. i really hadn’t considered the perspective of the tweet you shared! anyways, thanks for always having my back with your wisdom for all these years!!

  8. I can really relate. I don’t feel emotionally supported by my parents, but I understand the way they were brought up being the children of immigrants, emotional support isn’t something normal. But I try my hardest to not get mad, and learn they show their support for me in other ways

  9. Wow, everything you said about your parents – I can definitely relate to. I used to fight a lot w/ my dad, too, and I also thought it was because our personalities were too similar. I think the older we get, the more we realize how alike we are to our parents. I’m very thankful for that growth bc it made me appreciate their sacrifices more and more. 💓

  10. As a person who grows in Asian family, I can relate it to my experience so much! I was very rebellious during my adolescent ages and had many arguments with my parents. However, as time goes by, especially after I went to college and was not able to see my parents for months, I felt myself that I became more understandable towards them.

  11. So much truth in the parents talk. I am about to visit my parents for the weekend and I enjoy spending time with them a lot because I realize more and more that they will not be by my side forever and I just want to spend quality time with them. But I also know that I will be annoyed at some point during the weekend because we have a very different way to view life and the world.

  12. Your making me appreciate my strict Mexican mom!!! My mom was really overprotective and she still is even now that I'm grown! She was very supportive and loving but on the flip side I feel like I never took chances and had a hard time growing up and being independent. So I feel you with the GOOD and BAD of each parenting style. I guess we have to just accept it and be grateful! 💗 Your way more successful than me so they did something right! Your such a go getter and motivated! You got your shit together girl! Your my goals! 🙌

  13. I'm honestly in love with your video graphics – would love if you could discuss on this in future videos!!

    I recently just uploaded a London vlog as a fashion PR intern, so would love any support xx

  14. ive been subscribing ur channel since i was a freshman in highschool now im like 21 lol All i wanna say is that i loveu 언니ㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠ언니넘나예뻐요ㅠㅠㅠ진짜 넘나 사랑스럽게 생겼어ㅠㅠㅠ❤❤

  15. Not just Asian household. That problem runs in African households too. I can relate to being raised in an emotionally unsupportive family where criticism is your normal day to day and you are often left to fend for yourself.

  16. I had similar issues like you about my parents. I always wished to have more emotional supports but now it shaped me to be an independent and stronger woman. I am loving who I am today and I appreciate their support and love. As I am living abroad for many years I really miss spending time with them and want to make more memories. Without them, I wouldn't be here right now!

  17. I wasn’t really supported emotionally either!! And I also was (still am) extremely sheltered so much so my aunt laughed and said my parents should just put me in a glass box it wouldn’t be any different. It made me naive with everything, but I guess now that I’m starting to grow and separate from them I am learning how to experience my own things and make mistakes I can learn from

  18. Hi Jenn, I’m of Mexican decent living here in LA. I relate to you so much when you talk about your parents. My parents recently said “We’ve always been there for you” and at first I wanted to yell at them because all I remember is being home alone while they were working all day EVERY SINGLE DAY! No one to pick me up from school, to go to school meetings, to eat with and for a long time I recent them. But I took the time to realize that I should be thankful, which I am and like you said, my parents didn’t have the luxury to wonder what their purpose was because they were focused on providing the best for my brother and I. Today, at 29 years old I am more than grateful ever and wish wish the day never came where I didn’t have to live without them because truly my parents are my heroes. Keep up the great content and topics! Much love!!!

  19. Comment before watching – It's now almost become my monthly ritual to have 떡볶이 for late brunch on a Saturday afternoon watching your monthly vlog 💜 Thank you Jenn!

  20. The amount of plastic that comes in the HelloFresh packaging is absolutely absurd….
    Been a long time subscriber (from when you first did videos with Sarah) and now I'm slightly disappointed to see you advertise a product that results in quite a lot of damage to the environment….

  21. Ok ms umma I'm! Eye sea you with them red high lights slaying!! Please buy her the joy division shirt😭 that would be so adorable to spot a random ajumma in the h mart with a joy division tea shirt, It'd make anyone's day!

  22. Hi! I never really commented on this channel but I always watched your videos whenever I could! Anyways, I think my parents are very different from most Asian parents because they did emotionally support me. (Im not trying to brag, just sharing my experience). Whenever, I got a good grade they would always be happy and said the nicest thing. Even if I got below an A they would not be mad. I was usually the one who would get mad at myself if I couldn’t get the perfect score, and my parents would tell me not to be too focused on my grades. HOWEVER, I never really showed my parents my likes and dislikes, and to this day I am not sure why I didn’t. I guess I thought it would be a burden to them. I also didn’t ask my parents to buy the toys I wanted because when I went to a Korean School on Saturdays, kids would ask me what my dad does for a living and I said he was a pastor. Then, their response was, “Oh, your dad doesn’t make a lot in his job, so he doesn’t have a lot of money.” From then and even to this day, I don’t plead or beg my dad to buy me something. I just say, “it’s okay, I don’t want it.”

  23. I really enjoyed this video Jenn and the reflection you did at the end of the video and I relate so much as an ABK! Australian Born Korean :p that quote you shared also really makes me think. Thank you for being vulnerable with us 💕

  24. Where’s that just don’t nike shirt from?? you’re so cute Jenn! there’s something about your videos that grounds me and makes me feel so at peace w myself

  25. I completely relate to that quote and often resent my parents also for lack of emotional support, you are not alone! Personally I do not have a good relationship with my parents at all and it is quite heartbreaking. Just because they endured a difficult upbringing themselves does not excuse them to have a toxic influence on your life. I sometimes feel like my parents are complete strangers to me.

  26. I agree with you, the main reason why I still live with my parents and respect their decisions about me not being allowed to be out so late or sleepovers, is because I know that they won't be by my side forever and the best thing i can do for myself and them is to enjoy the time we have now even if it's just eating dinner together every night. Also damn that buffet tho hahaha so good

  27. How about verbal abuse? Everyday I was called stupid and was told I was not clever enough like the other kids. Also when I was doing bad in school, my dad would kick me as I was laying on the floor crying my eyes out as he tells me "you are shit. you are not like your cousins, you should eat your cousins' shit because that's how worthless you are". That was EXACTLY what he said. I will never forget that. I was also body shamed too. "you're too skinny and short, why can't you be like your cousins." I felt dumb and ugly my entire childhood at school and at home. If i ever tinker with anything or try to fix anything around the house, they would yell at me and say I was a troublemaker, I'll make things worse, when really they should have been been patient and waited 30 more mins and things were fixed right then and there. As a result, I developed anxiety. At work and when I socialise, I'm always afraid of doing or saying the wrong things to the point I'm hesitant and just stay silent, and it's hurting my career and social life. (I have no social life now). I'm just trying to keep my head above water due to anxiety and from judgements from parents, than trying to find my "purpose in life". And according to my parents it seems my purpose in life is to get rich and buy them a house. When I was struggling to find a job towards end of college, my dad tells my mom, "my daughters turn out to be nothing. Other people's kids are succesful while they turn out to be nothing" And it wasn't until a few months later I landed a full-time job, and then just 3 months in working, my parents were looking for a house behind my back and asked me if I can buy this house for them with mortage under my name. I said no of course, I don't have enough for a down payment (they don't know my income because I refuse to tell them (my dad keeps asking me because he wants to know much his effort of raising me has paid off or not, his exact words) and I need time to consider the house and other options. and my dad told my mom in front of me "I raised this child but how come I don't earn any benefits from it." There is no patience. They only care about me being successful so that they can brag about me and so that I can provide for them. Is there any parental love? Because my mental health took a hit.

  28. Jeez Jenn, you have me tearing up with the parents topic. I swear we lived the same life. I can relate to so much you’ve been through and are going through. I hope to have as much grace and patience as you some day. Love you 💖

  29. I just had my Korean mom visited for 5days, after I moved out with my American husband to Colorado. I agree 200% of what you said about they require patient with the multi cultures different, it was so hard to satisfied her, but then also I saw my self through her, why I am like this now, what kinda fences I grow up with… I am also a yoga teacher and I've been following the 8 yoga limbs the first one is non violence but with family it is even hard to appreciate them and be nice to them…I also have a older brother and a non Korean hubby, I've been thinking we have very similar family situation I would love more contents like this <3 love you jenn

  30. Seeing your dad reminds me of mine so much. He was always a free bird and did his own thing. He passed away about 2 months ago. I admire your relationship with your parents. Much love

  31. I so relate to jenn on the asian upbringing lol i grew up being called ugly, not book smart (LOL) by my parents and constantly compared to my cousins. Its rough to grow up in an asian household lol now that i have a child of my own, i try really hard to not do what my parents did and to just be there emotionally for my son(like jenn said)

  32. I love the idea of Hello Fresh as it makes home cooking healthy meals more accessible to busy people such as yourself. I’ve never used them before but from what I gather, all the food is packaged in plastic? Since seeing your video with Buzzfeed about trying to be more eco-friendly and sustainable, is using your connections to Hello Fresh to discuss a more sustainable packaging method something you would consider doing? I think you’d really be able to use your voice and platform to raise awareness of plastic consumption and try to change it for the better! Love your videos!xx

  33. oh man Jenn, every single thing you said about you and your parents and your relationship resonates so much with and i think it's so beautiful and important of you to speak up about it bc there are so many younger people struggling and just hearing they're not the only ones going through this is just crucial and i just want to say thank you !

  34. I feel you on the parent thing. Although I cut contact with my dad, I try to spend as much time with my mom as I can although my patience is really tested. It stresses me out to spend time with family but I love them and cherish the bond that we have.

  35. Can so relate when you talked about parents…. im still working on letting it be and showing my gratitude as I am very blessed just not good at showing or being affectionate like when i was a child….as I'm only child so get alot of nagging and overprotection so lots of clashes as they're down my back alot but trying to spend as much time as i can doing things and taking them to new places but they love being at home and days when they do im like ceebs :$ but like you said patience can be tested

  36. Omg my mum and father in law take photos of literally everything in trips. Thank you for being so honest and insightful in this video. I find myself losing patience when mum slows our trips down to take photos. I know that it really stems from their lack of travel as young adults, working to provide for their family, and also how expensive cameras and film were. We are so lucky to live in this technological age. We are the generation that bridges the gap between the past and present (I think 😊). Thank you again for sharing!

  37. Pushing aside all the influencer endorsements and product promotions, this is the kind of content that speaks to me!!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and perceptions of your parents. Also, thanks for sharing that amazing quote by Bo Ren! So relatable and so true.

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